What to Do When You Feel Like You're Not Winning?

Have you ever compared yourself to others and felt like you’re not winning? You’re not alone. First, don’t worry too much about not securing the victory. Sometimes you can do everything right and still lose. Take sports, for example: you can be a talented athlete, put in everything you got in training and still possibly lose the trophy in the end. That doesn’t mean you lack skills or merit; it only means that victory is difficult to obtain, which in turn only makes it much sweeter.

Now if you feel a pressure that motivates you to win, use it to your advantage. That could mean your drive or hunger is greater than others and you shouldn’t take it lightly. You should keep on fighting but the most important thing is to not get burned out. The worst possible outcome for an ambitious individual is ending up with frustration, which then leads to resentment and bitterness. Frustration doesn’t come from hard work, it comes from working hard and not getting the results you desire. 

However, like sports, results are outside of your control. It’s possible you train rigorously and still lose. This is where you should adapt to the athlete mindset. When they lose, athletes don’t quit but get back to training then return to the next competition. They do that for the love of the game and you should too. 

If you depend your happiness on winning then you give outside factors power to determine your inner joy. But if you are happy to train and participate in the competition for the joy of it then you are a winner, an athlete in the sport of life. 

In conclusion, continue to work hard, enjoy the journey and worry less about the destination. Once you learn to love the process, you have already succeeded.

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